A Wife Asks, “How Can a Husband Love His Wife AND Be Visually Attracted to Other Women?”

What a tough topic to delve into. I suggest reading the post before reading my response. You are welcome to share your thoughts or struggles…
Though I’m not yet married, what I draw from this post is that both men and women struggle with various sins differently. Though we struggle with different types of sin on different levels, sin is NEVER acceptable in God’s sight.

What I also draw from this post is that everyday, women(and men) need to renew our mind with God’s Word so that we do not become conformed to the way this world(in sin) thinks and behaves. It is so important to renew our minds because if we don’t we will begin to think and act out of selfishness, lust, greed and many other lifestyles that are displeasing to God.

Personally, from this post I’m reminded to appreciate and accept the way God created me. I’m presented with the challenge to view myself through the eyes of my Lord Jesus and not through the lenses if this world.

Though I’m not married, I am in a romantic relationship and even when I had a crush on a guy it was tempting to want to change my appearance… (not to the level of plastic surgery) Why? There could be many reasons. For this I am thankful, being reminded that I can’t compete with the rest of the world, nor do I need to. My God accepts me the way I am and He created me, knit me together in my mothers womb.

How interesting it is that I was recently wondering why men look at other women when they are dating someone or are married, because this happened once with me, then this post is shared by peacefulwife and thejoyfilledwife.

The Peaceful Wife


This is part of a discussion we had on this post by thejoyfilledwife this week. If you are interested, there are more comments – including some by some husbands that I think may be helpful for women to try to begin to understand a masculine point of view on these difficult issues of a man’s experience with visual temptation, lust and pornography. And there are some amazing comments by some other wives who have hashed through these painful issues in a God-honoring way.


I don’t get the whole “men are visual but they still love you” thing.

  • If they love you – WHY are they looking?
  • If they love you – even if they can’t help but see the girl walk by – WHY do they need to think about it again?

Basically, what you are saying is – we live in a world full of smut, so…

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