Book Review: I Kissed Dating Goodbye By Joshua Harris

I Kissed Dating Goodbye was recommended by a blog that I sometimes read (girltalk this is the link along with other things that lead me to read I Kissed Dating Goodbye). As a result of the book reviews I found and scanned over on the internet I have to say that the worst thing to do is to not consider reading this book just because of its title. In my opinion, It was very helpful, in that it gave me a new perspective on dating and being in a relationship with the opposite sex. Other than dating a key point that I remember from reading this book is “The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.”  For me, this quote from the book, does not just apply to relationships involving romance but also to friendships and family relationships. I recommend this book to those interested in a different perspective on dating or those deciding to take dating seriously.

A few points I remember from the book and thought about are: (not direct quotes)

  • Date with a purpose. What’s your reason for dating? Is it to just have fun & have a little fling here or there or is it to learn more about a person who you are interested in and would like to someday marry?
  • There is a difference between friends and those who are dating or those who are lovers. Friends look at a common/shared interest shoulder to shoulder, while lovers or those dating look at each other face to face.
  • Terms don’t define our lives, our lives define our terms. It doesn’t matter if we use the term dating or courting, what matters is the way it is done. With this I think of the word ‘Christian’, what matters most is the way we live and is it in accord with the way God wants us to live, are we representing Him appropriately.
  • General questions: What’s my motive for being in a relationship? How can I live for God as I am single or as I pursue marriage? How can I stop living selfishly? How can I serve others?

1 Corinthians 10:31 “Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.”

Mark 12:29-33 “Jesus answered him, “The first of all the commandments is: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength. ‘This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these.” So the scribe said to Him, “Well said, Teacher. You have spoken the truth, for there is one God, and there is no other but He.  And to love Him with all the heart, with all the understanding, with all the soul, and with all the strength, and to love one’s neighbor as oneself, is more than all the whole burnt offerings and sacrifices.”